Thank you for articulating exactly the hardest part of my own sacred journey in this lifetime. Abuse in developing years trains the young mind to appease and to fear displeasure from another because others always hold and wield power over the young being. Growing into power happens, as I see it, slowly, gradually, and from the Earth up. I had never really considered the power of gratitude in terms of dwelling within all the beautiful power the Earth bestows when we live in harmony and appreciation with it. Beautiful, beautiful post that I shall read many times to truly sink it in.
Thank you for sharing this experience; it sounds like you're finding a beautiful space. This has been an ongoing part of my healing and spiritual journey as well, with "ongoing" being the key word! It's so hard- almost no boundaries in my 20s, learning to respect other people's in my 30s, and now in my 40s trying to understand and respect my own.
Hmmmm interesting! I have been a people pleaser my entire life, and it has taken me many years to acknowledge that people pleasing is how I was taught to be a "good girl" by my parents. My "ninja move", when my boundaries are threatened is to ghost. The ghosting is the flight part of fight, flight, freeze or fawn. Ghosting means I don't have to stick around and face consequences for my tongue-tied incoherence or tendency to say awkward and inappropriate things. If social awkwardness feels overwhelming, I'd rather go home. Boundaries means a line in the sand. Walls mean closed off. Ghosting is a wall move not a boundary move. Alcohol used to help me relax in social situations but I no longer have that so ghosting is the default way to get out of my discomfort zone. At this time I'm ok with walls. Once my husband has passed (he is dying of heart failure and kidney failure) my life will look different and I may decide to not wall off but not yet. Thank-you for your words today!
Thank you for your honesty in sharing. Our prayers are with you during this transition. I really resonate with your journey and I am sure a lot of us can identify with those survival mechanisms. I think that it is important to honor the stages of growth. When I shift patterns I offer my gratitude for the mechanisms that helped me get through my life up until that point. If I hadn't been able to create those coping techniques I wouldn't have been able to make it. Our lives are constantly evolving and thank goodness for that. Much love to you Holly.
Thank you for articulating exactly the hardest part of my own sacred journey in this lifetime. Abuse in developing years trains the young mind to appease and to fear displeasure from another because others always hold and wield power over the young being. Growing into power happens, as I see it, slowly, gradually, and from the Earth up. I had never really considered the power of gratitude in terms of dwelling within all the beautiful power the Earth bestows when we live in harmony and appreciation with it. Beautiful, beautiful post that I shall read many times to truly sink it in.
I love your comment - "Growing into power happens, as I see it, slowly, gradually, and from the Earth up." Such a beautiful way to express it.
Thank you for sharing this experience; it sounds like you're finding a beautiful space. This has been an ongoing part of my healing and spiritual journey as well, with "ongoing" being the key word! It's so hard- almost no boundaries in my 20s, learning to respect other people's in my 30s, and now in my 40s trying to understand and respect my own.
I'm in my late 60's now. This has been lifelong work. Hopefully I'll get it figured out in this lifetime.
Hmmmm interesting! I have been a people pleaser my entire life, and it has taken me many years to acknowledge that people pleasing is how I was taught to be a "good girl" by my parents. My "ninja move", when my boundaries are threatened is to ghost. The ghosting is the flight part of fight, flight, freeze or fawn. Ghosting means I don't have to stick around and face consequences for my tongue-tied incoherence or tendency to say awkward and inappropriate things. If social awkwardness feels overwhelming, I'd rather go home. Boundaries means a line in the sand. Walls mean closed off. Ghosting is a wall move not a boundary move. Alcohol used to help me relax in social situations but I no longer have that so ghosting is the default way to get out of my discomfort zone. At this time I'm ok with walls. Once my husband has passed (he is dying of heart failure and kidney failure) my life will look different and I may decide to not wall off but not yet. Thank-you for your words today!
Thank you for your honesty in sharing. Our prayers are with you during this transition. I really resonate with your journey and I am sure a lot of us can identify with those survival mechanisms. I think that it is important to honor the stages of growth. When I shift patterns I offer my gratitude for the mechanisms that helped me get through my life up until that point. If I hadn't been able to create those coping techniques I wouldn't have been able to make it. Our lives are constantly evolving and thank goodness for that. Much love to you Holly.